Most people are waiting for clarity to arrive. They want to suddenly wake up one day with certainty about who they are and what they want. They expect themselves to have an automatic clarity about what their purpose is and where their life is headed. These are big life questions that can feel paralyzing. The reality is that clarity rarely works that way. Clarity is not something you find, it is something you create. And one of the biggest reasons people struggle to create cla

Anyone who has spent time around kids knows one thing to be true; big emotions can show up fast. One minute everything is fine. The next minute there are tears, yelling, slammed doors, or even physical retaliation. From the outside, it can look dramatic. They seem to be acting irrational. But what is actually happening inside the body tells a different story. We all have something called the fight or flight response. It is part of our nervous system and its job is simple: kee

There is a difference between the power you have and the power you control. Anyone can learn to hit hard. Anyone can train for explosiveness. The mechanics can be trained and the power can be developed. Any one of my beginner students can swing their hand and hit the pad with a force that makes a loud BANG on the pad. But not everyone learns how to harness what they have developed and it’s what gets martial artists in trouble, as well as people in everyday life. In martial ar

When we talk about emotions, we often talk about feeling happy, sad, angry, or anxious. There are a wide range of emotional layers that easily come to mind, but love is so often left off in its own category. The word love seems to carry a bit more weight. Up on its pedestal, it is often more challenging to talk about. Especially for men. It’s either downplayed and stripped of its edge. Or it’s framed as something with such power that the mere mention of it could transform the